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Monday, June 18, 2012

I Could Have Been Friendlier

The other day, I was sitting at my son's baseball game.  Another mother came along.  I looked at her and she looked at me.  While she didn't say anything either, I think she would have been receptive to me saying "hi."  I said nothing.  I knew instantly that I could have done better.

This year, I don't know any of the other baseball parents.  There have been other seasons when I've looked forward to sitting and chatting with people during games.  This year, I sit alone or with my husband if he's not helping out.  I don't mind that.  I enjoy good conversation but small talk tires me.  Sitting quietly and watching the games is fine.  I don't know this woman to whom I didn't say "hi" and, as it's late in the season, I probably won't get to know her.  Still, a simple greeting wouldn't have hurt.

I know the quote "When in doubt, do the friendliest thing."  (I can't find who came up with the quote to give them credit.)  I would like to live by it and it guides me sometimes.  Being somewhat shy, it's not always the easiest thing to take a chance and be friendly.  I think it's worthwhile, though.  We don't know what other people are feeling.  People can be going through lots of things and appearances can be very misleading.  A friendly greeting can help, if only a little bit.

If the rain holds off and I see that woman at the game this evening, maybe I will get a chance to say "hi.".  I don't make any promises.  I use the quote as a guideline and, if anyone tries to engage me in silly small talk, I can't guarantee I won't growl at them.  I still have some work to do on my friendliness, I suppose.


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